Being there for one another in times of trouble is harder than it appears on the surface.
We often define a friend as someone who will be there for us, but what does that really mean?
Our first instinct when something terrible is happening is to turn away, to run and escape, to get out before the terrible thing can suck us in as well.
If we make the decision that we’re not going to run away but instead stay with our friend who is suffering, our next instinct is to try and fix it, to say, no, look, do this, change this, fix this and you’ll be fine.
It takes a very disciplined and patient sort of love to truly be there for someone in crisis, an art that I sometimes despair of ever mastering.
It is exactly that sort of love that we can often look back and recognize in God’s response to our dark moments. Continue reading